There is a movie called
Life as a House. It stars Kevin Kline and is about a man who is dying. Before he passes away, he enlists his son's help to build a home. Together, as the framing goes up, relationships are tried and tested, and finally, resolved. The story is touching, moving, and requires a box of Kleenex. But for me, watching this movie last week was too much. I bawled like a baby. I bawled because the circle of life makes us all feel like helpless infants.
My mom has been having a health scare. She had her gallbladder removed and the doctors determined she has cirrhosis of the liver (she doesn't drink). They mentioned medication. They mentioned a transplant. But they didn't tell her yet how bad things are. They also did a liver biopsy. We should know the results tomorrow. But all it takes is one phone call saying there
might be something, to send us into a downward spiral of memories and longings--wishes to turn back the clock, to stop time, to capture forever a moment, a smile, a voice. My mom is only 54 years old.
And so today, although I'm optimistic that this situation will be okay, I wanted to write because it heals me. Somehow sending your thoughts into the universe feels a bit like therapy sometimes. This situation made me examine some facets of my life I've been struggling with. I finally made some career decisions (to pursue college teaching from home rather than elementary teaching) and determined myself to stay present in the moment more.
And so now, as the twinkle lights on the tree remind me of so many years of Christmases as a child and prove to be a joyous yet painful acknowledgment of how quickly the childhood journey is passing with my own children, I take the time to sip my tea a little slower--I am thankful for my apartment, even if it's not our permanent home. I am thankful for the drawings taped to the refrigerator and the hand prints smudging the windows. I am thankful for my job that allows me to be available for my family. I am thankful for my husband and for my children, who are desperate to find their wings without first going through the caterpillar's stages.
I am thankful that I spent Thanksgiving with my mom and my sister. And I am thankful that, even though life demands too much of us sometimes, that I have cozy blankets and heartfelt friends and family to take this wild ride with.
Happy holidays to you and yours.
xo,
Cathy